I know all too well about navigating family struggles. In our family of seven plus two dogs, we have seen our share of challenges and had to learn how to overcome them. Everything from relational issues to job loss have come to challenge our family yet we are still standing. Not that I would want to go through any of it again, but at the same time I wouldn't change the past. I wouldn't advise my younger self to willingly go through tough family times, but I wouldn't be as strong as I am today without them. I know some families go through much worst and maybe they would change a few things, but they still know their character was fortified in a way that only the struggle could have done.
Family struggles can be a challenging and stressful experience. It is normal for families to experience conflicts and issues, but it can be difficult to navigate the emotions that come with it and overcome the challenge at hand. Even the sturdiest families have been brought down with unexpected blows and this is what I am passionate about preventing. Here are a few things I have learned along the way.
Not all struggles are equal and there is never going to be a one size fits all list of ways to get through it, but some things are essential regardless of what you're going through as a family.
Firstly, communication is key. It is important to have open and honest communication with your family members. This means actively listening to each other and sharing your thoughts and feelings in a respectful manner. As a husband I have had to learn to listen to understand and nothing else. I'm still learning in fact. I have to remember to seek understanding of what others in my family are going through and not look for a solution, get defensive, find fault or anything else. Understanding what each other is feeling is key and will bring you closer together as the storm moves through.
Secondly, it is important to take care of your own mental and emotional health. Dealing with family struggles can be emotionally draining, so it is important to practice self-care. This can include exercise, meditation, or spending time with friends and loved ones outside of the family. My main advice here is to pay attention to how you are doing. Obviously not the greatest but what I mean is, are you reacting in a way that you do not want to? It is easy for me to get overwhelmed with feelings and then lose sight of my goals. I want to maintain composure and be a help through the pain that we all are experiencing. Make sure you are checking in with yourself often, it's important.
Lastly, consider seeking outside help. Family therapy can be a beneficial resource for families experiencing conflicts and issues. A therapist can provide a neutral perspective and help facilitate communication and problem-solving. But beyond that you need to lean on outside family and friends. This isn't easy for me, I'm not good at opening up and I don't like to be vulnerable but let me tell you, it has made the world of difference in my life. At first, I had to force myself but then it got easier. Learning to be honest about what I am feeling with others has become a pillar in the way I make it through tough times. My wife and kids are drawing closer to me through vulnerable moments, and we find strength together to make it through the difficult time at hand. Don't underestimate this one.
So what does this have to do with photography? Well nothing actually, except that I am passionate about photographing families and therefore I care about the wellbeing of families. I know first hand how tough it can get and how close a family can be to being divided. I don't want that for me and I dont want that for you. I want to see nothing but genuine smiles when I have my camera on you and believe that those happy moments will be relived through the photo I take. We do it together.
My hope is that somehow this reaches those that need the help and that even as little as my advice tips are, they make a difference for someone. Be strong and remain steadfast. Always remember, the storm will pass. -love you fam.
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